Former unofficial first lady of Canada Sophie Grégoire Trudeau may be a publishing genius. Her new book, “Closer Together,” with the cover photo of its telegenic author turned toward the reader, presents as a memoir, a beckoning. It suggests that she might spill samovars of tea about her nearly two decades of marriage to the beguiling, ever-youthful Justin Trudeau, a man who easily tops any list of World Leaders We Would Date.
In a recent profile in Vogue, the yoga instructor and accomplished outdoorswoman teased readers with her sense of abandon, likening herself to “a wild horse in a stall.” There are times, she said, when “I just want to run in a field.” This is not one of those times.
Granted, she wrote and submitted the manuscript before she knew she and the prime minister would separate, but Grégoire Trudeau’s new book is true to its subtitle, “Knowing Ourselves, Loving Each Other,” a tome of impassioned self-improvement with barely a soupçon of political history.
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To be sure, Grégoire Trudeau is a master of intimacy and sharing — but not too much.
She tells us about the challenges of dealing with an eating disorder, infertility, her loneliness as an only child, her anxieties. She’s candid about her emotional struggles without being even remotely open about the most compelling aspects of her extraordinary life.
Readers learn almost nothing about what it was like to be married to the Canadian prime minister of almost nine years — the couple separated in August — and the demands of her role. True, they are still married and share the raising of their children, and Trudeau remains Canada’s leader, but, honestly, she makes Melania Trump seem loquacious by comparison.
Justin Trudeau enters nearly midway through the book. “To make a long story short, we went for dinner in Montreal, and then ice cream, and then karaoke, and then back to his place,” she writes. Before driving her home from a date in 2003, the budding politician informed her: “I’m 31 years old. I’ve been waiting for you for 31 years. Should we skip the girlfriend phase and start with fiancée?”
Why shorten this story? It’s a great story. Surely, there are more. By the next page — poof! — the enchanted Québécois disappears. Operas and extended miniseries could be devoted to Grégoire Trudeau’s exquisite mother-in-law, Margaret, who dated Jack Nicholson and Ryan O’Neal, kept company with Ted Kennedy and Mick Jagger, and graced Studio 54. What do we learn of her? “She has an incredible sense of humor.” And what of Grégoire Trudeau’s late father-in-law, former prime minister Pierre Trudeau? All we are told is that he and Grégoire Trudeau shared a love for the same brand of packaged oatmeal cookies. (For the record, they’re Dad’s.)
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Early in her tenure as unofficial first lady (Canada doesn’t formally recognize the wives of its prime ministers as official, so it grants them almost no budget), Grégoire Trudeau touched off a firestorm when she requested additional funds to manage family and public duties. Does she mention this? No, she does not.
Instead, we have a book exquisitely dedicated to this wellness moment. We accompany Grégoire Trudeau on a journey of radical self-acceptance with her clinic of experts. She acquires a “universal emotional library,” a corpulent glossary of buzzy, Goopy concepts which includes a “patriarchy primer” and insights into “mindful masculinity.” She informs us that sleep is good. Screens are bad. Exercise is great, especially in nature. Resilience? We are so far above resilience. We have moved on to “thrivancy,” which is “five steps higher than” resiliency.
She devotes many pages to Stephen Porges’s debated polyvagal theory, “how an unregulated nervous system makes it difficult for a person to build a relationship of trust with themselves and with others,” even though, by her own admission, “some experts say his theory remains unproven.”
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It is easy to like Grégoire Trudeau. She’s curious, earnest and a superb interviewer, her book studded with conversations with specialists, plus quizzes and so many tips to becoming our better selves.
It is less easy to admire the former talk show host’s prose. “Closer Together” is composed in TED-Talkese, geared more toward an audio audience than visual readers. It’s blemished with too many announced intentions like “whom we will hear from later,” “as readers of this chapter have discovered” and “We’re going to get into some science here, but stay with me; I promise it will be worth it.” This is groan-inducing “writing” that celebrities and self-help authorities are permitted, and that smart editors should excise on initial reading and banish from this Earth. Frankly, “Closer Together” reads like an extended proposal for a wellness talk show. I hope she lands one. She has already launched a communications company and will publish a children’s book next year.
Let’s be honest, as Grégoire Trudeau might wish us to be. Would she have landed this book contract, would Hillary Clinton and Arianna Huffington have blurbed its wonders, would Vogue have profiled her, would we be reading and reviewing her work if Trudeau wasn’t her last name? Well, no.
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Throughout “Closer Together,” in her many informative Q&As, she refers to herself as Sophie Grégoire, sans the Canadian baggage of Trudeau, while being constantly surprised that so many authorities would share their time with the prime minister’s longtime wife.
She has our attention. She’s told the story she wished to share, not necessarily the one we wanted — and therein lies her genius.
Karen Heller is the former national features writer for The Washington Post.
Closer Together
Knowing Ourselves, Loving Each Other
By Sophie Grégoire Trudeau
Random House Canada. 294 pp. $30
